I listened as my friend told me how terrible so-and-so was. How he was “all talk, no action”, and that he dreaded the thought of his pairing up with so-and-so during certain times.
I wondered if I should have been listening to this.
Too many times have I been subjected through this behind-the-back bad-mouthing only to build up a certain bias against the person being bad-mouthed, even after I consciously build up resistance to this gossip.
I make it a personal promise never to talk behind another’s back, unless it benefits that other. If you talk bad behind another’s back, it shows more of your own character than the person you are talking about.