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Different Is Good

It’s quite a well known fact that birds of a feather flock together — we tend to seek out people who are like us. But, question is, how much like us?

I’ve had this problem with people like me. I don’t know if it’s a genetics, culture or environment thing, but I tend to like being different. And when somebody I know turns out to be too much like me, I shy away from that person.

It’s like, “hey, don’t compete with me for my niche personality man. Don’t be so much like me, okay?”

I have many friends who are similar, and then there are people I know who are too similar. I think the main reason I hate people who are too-like-me is this: I can practically read their thoughts, I know their motives, I know what they want — because their thoughts will be very similar (if not identical) to mine.

And if their thoughts are similar to mine — that’d be bad.

I’m scheming and manipulative, though I keep it hidden under a very innocent guise. And as such, I can predict that they’ll be similarly manipulative too. Only thing is, it’s not only I who’ll know that they are sheming and manipulative; they too will know that I am as well.

I think that perhaps that’s why best friends and/or lovers tend to have a very loving relationship that can so easily go wrong. They know each other so well because often they’re so similar (and also because they are often together), that when their motives clash, they’ll know exactly what buttons to push to manipulate or to set each other off on a rage.

That, is why I don’t like people too much like me — only those that I know have different needs do I like. This world’s a competitive place, that’s the way it is.

Categories: Personal Psychology

Donn Lee

I love to read and write. Professionally, data science, technology, and sales ops are my thing. In my non-professional life, I aspire quite simply to be a good person, and encourage others to do the same. For those who care, I test as INFJ in the MBTI.

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