Okay, here’s a few tips on body language that I think everybody just has to know.
This is very condensed, just to check your interest level. Look for body language books if you find what I present here interesting/useful.
Liar liar
A person’s most likely lying if he/she does any of the following while speaking:
- lightly brushes against his/her nose
- rubs ear
- rubs eye
- covers mouth (“The Mouth Guard”), sometimes disguised as a cough
If you’re the person speaking instead, and the listener does any of the actions, then the person listening thinks you’re lying! To remember these tell-tale signs, remember the three wise monkeys who “see no evil”, “hear no evil”, and “speak no evil”.
If the person thinks you know he/she is lying, these are some tell-tale signs:
- he/she scratches neck
- pulls collar away from neck
Body language for love!
When a man is interested in a woman, the number one thing that he would do would be to pull up his socks!
When a woman is interested in a man, the number one thing that she would do is dangle her sandal/slipper while looking at/talking to him (while her legs are crossed).
Came across these in an episode of “Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars”. I don’t like the show, but the guest speaker was a person specialising in body-language, and I just lurve body language!
About the guy bit. As a guy I never pull up my socks, or at least I never remembered pulling up my socks before. But it is the number one tell-tale sign.
I remembered a few more of the women bits though. A woman will also do the following if she’s interested:
- moisten lips by licking lips with tongue
- twirl tips of her hair
- sit cross-legged while speaking to her man in a way that the leg further away from his acts like a shield against everyone else in the area
- uncrosses and re-crosses her legs in front of her man (a la Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct)
Interested yet? You should be! Remember, body language is rumoured to be over 60% of the message, while verbal language only accounts for 40%!
My favourite
This is also one of my favourites, if not my favourite. The very, very obvious defensive arm-crossing stance. It’s my favourite because it’s so easy to spot! I didn’t even need to try to see how someone slowly grew from open (arms by side) to defensive (arms crossed with look of annoyance on face).
Recommended Reading (lots of pictures!): Body Language by Allan Pease
And as a bonus for those who read this post till the end, here’s a link to a great site showing quite a bit of body language pictures!
